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Significance of Self Dependence in Kids

During our lifetime, parenthood is certainly one of the best phases. We spent some of the crucial part of our lives in meeting our child’s needs. If you have a small baby in the family then this leads to responsibility. You have to fulfill all his/her needs and requirements.

Early years of your kids play a significant role in their personality and development. Instead of acting as an ‘overprotective parents’, it would be advisable to act smart and behave like an ‘intelligent parents’.

Learn to Differentiate Between Overprotective and Intelligent Parents

A recent survey conducted between overprotective and intelligent parents shows that kids of later are smarter and usually take correct decisions. Nowadays, more and more parents want to be ‘intelligent’ and not ‘overprotective’. They have understood the significance of personal decision making by kids.

Intelligent parents have realized that when the kids make mistakes then they also got invaluable opportunity to learn. This will be lifelong lesson for kids and in future they will think twice before committing that all over again.

With the growing years, your kid must be self reliant and decision maker. This will make him/her confident and he/she would be able trust his/her decisions.

Although, it is quite tough for parents to decide when to allow the kids to do something independently, still it is the most significant part for the healthy development of your kid. On the other hand, parents should not leave the kid all alone. It is their responsibility to know when to allow them to take decisions and when to offer your assistance.

Tips for Making Your Kid Self Reliant

Initially, you can allow your kids to make decisions. For Instance, which shirt would you like to wear in your friend’s birthday, yellow shirt or the orange one?

Or

What would you like to have in your dinner, mixed vegetable with bread or Vegetable Pulao?

Such small decisions will make the kids feel important. With the passage of time, allow your kid for some major decision making, such as choice of friends or sports.

Encourage Your Kid

Another interesting way for making your kid self dependent is by engaging him/her in house hold chores.

• Ask your kid to make his/her bed.

• You can also ask him to tie his shoe laces on his own.

• Allow your kid to take clothes out from the dryer. Now, ask him/her to take out all his/her clothes and place them neatly in his/her wardrobe

Be Your Kid’s Best Friends

Whenever your kid comes to you with some of his/her queries, do not answer at once. On the contrary, make things clearer and transparent by asking more related questions. This will enable your kid to understand the pros and cons of his/her decisions.

Next time onwards, whenever he/she has to decide something, he/she will analyze in the same manner.

If your kid is committing a mistake, it is fine because he/she has at least tried. Do not make your kid feel embarrassed. On the contrary, it your responsibility to encourage him/her to do it more accurately with your much needed guidance!